Kids and Social Media

When it comes to kids and social media we are in new territory.  No generation before has ever had to deal with social media or the myriad of issues that comes with it.  We haven't even identified all the issues yet!  We also have no idea what the long term effects of social media and technology as we use it today are.

So, what do we parents do with these online and mobile mediums our children are flocking to?  We can listen to "experts" but I feel like even experts are simply making their best guesses about what is right for our kids in this arena. We can ban social networks and online gaming altogether risking our kids becoming either outstanding individuals or a social lepers, or we can let them loose into the virtual world and hope for the best.  There is a third option, of course, where we can try to find some middle ground.

I feel like we used to have a pretty good idea about how children developed intellectually and emotionally based on the way they interacted with the world around them.  Touching and manipulating objects and communicating with family and friends live and in person all contribute to growing and learning.  I don't want my child to miss out on those experiences because they have been replaced with virtual simulations.  At the same time, I know that my children need to learn about technology and that I want them to be able to communicate with their friends.  When I was a tween and teen I was on the phone constantly talking to my friends.  We also wrote notes to one another daily.  I suppose this is really equivalent to what goes on today with texts and sites like Instagram and Facebook.  The only difference is that there is a much more permanent record of you online and in text messages than there ever was with phone calls and paper notes that found their way to the trash can.  The only way we ever learn not to make stupid mistakes is by making stupid mistakes and it is a given that every kid is going to say or do something they regret later on.  In this age, we just have to really hope that they don't do it for all the world to see.
I am sure that with every new technology, be it electricity, radio, or the telegram, there were those who questioned it, opposed it, thought it came from the devil, or deemed it a passing fad.  Some things are fads, while others become such a staple in our culture that in a few generations we laugh and wonder why people made such a big deal about it when it came into existence.

Keeping these sorts of things in mind here are just some of my strategies when it comes to social media and online gaming in my kids' lives.

1) Balance: I try to ensure that my kids' online experiences are balanced with real world ones.  I don't want all their interactions with friends to take place online.  So, "Sure, you can talk to your friend on Instagram for a half hour, but while you are doing that why don't you invite them over to have a playdate or a sleepover?"  With my son, who primarily plays games, I want him outside for a while before he even thinks about the iPad or the Wii.  I also ensure that the tactile and sensory experiences are happening regularly.  I work a lot and it is easier to let the kids (and myself) sink into relaxing online in the evenings, but I try to force myself to do some sort of activity with them when I can such as cooking, board games, or kickball.  I also have the kids in lots of extra curriculars like gymnastics, swimming, scouts, and music lessons.

2) I Spy:  Say what you want, but I spy on my kids.  When I agreed to let my daughter get an Instagram account, that was part of the deal.  I have access to her account on my phone and I read it regularly.  If she were to post something that I think she'd regret later for whatever reason I'd delete it.  I also check who is following her and ensure it is only her real life friends from school and the neighborhood.  When I once saw something that might hurt a friend's feelings I had her take care of it.  Often she hates me for being so involved but she's 10 and that's just the way it is.  Every now and then she loves it when we interact online with one another and sometimes she even laughs at my jokes.  With my son and his games I have to make time to sit with him and get to know and understand each game with him.  I had no idea what Minecraft or Angry Birds were and there are other games like Clash of Clans and Dragonvale, too, that once threw me for a loop.  I had to learn these games and watch him play because 1) I want to know what he is doing and what he's into, and 2) I have to see exactly what happens here to ensure it's safe and age appropriate, plus 3) I want to spend time with him!

3) I Limit Myself: This one is easier said than done but I am aware that I may have contributed to the attraction my children have to technology.  My husband works in technology and is always using it.  I work a lot from home and since becoming a mom I, sadly, have to admit that I interact with friends and family more online than in any other way.  If I am sitting on the computer in all of my spare time how can I possibly expect my kids to do anything different?  For this reason, I have to force myself to take time away from the screen and to pursue other things like reading, cooking, crafts, or even just my house cleaning.  There is a direct correlation to how much time I spend online and how much time my kids do on any given day.

4) I Allow:  I permit my kids to use technology for a number of reasons.  One is that if you make something forbidden they are only going to become even more intrigued by it.  Another is that this is the world we live in and they should know how to operate within it.  A third I have to admit is a bit of peer pressure.  If they want to do what all their friends are doing and it does not seem harmful in any way, I don't want to prevent them from fitting it (again IF they want to).  However, there are limits.

5) I Ban: There are some things I am not comfortable with and I have to set limits.  I have parental controls on the iPad my son uses.  My daughter really wants a YouTube Channel because her friends have them and I don't allow it.  I have allowed her to make stop motion videos with her toys and post it to my account but she is not permitted to post videos of herself unless it is private and only shared with family and again it has to go through my account so I can be sure of this.  Some websites are off limits as are some games.  If they whine and complain I remind them that they do not have to use these things at all if they don't wish to follow the rules.

6) I Teach:  My kids know how to write a letter and use a dictionary and encyclopedia.  They balk and wonder what the point is since we have computers but I feel like they should know what life was like before.  For all we know one day it might revert back.  Stranger things have happened!  

I know some parents that don't allow any technology for kids older than mine.  I know some with younger kids who have full cell phone plans and unsupervised Youtube accounts.  Some parents ban games that I allow and allow games that I ban.  We're all just figuring this whole thing out and I don't really think there is a right or wrong here.  Every child and every family is different.  I think the thing that matters most is that we we put thought and care into the issue and that our kids know we love them.

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Why I Despise Common Core

Last year when we homeschooled I pretty much put together my own curriculum and lessons.  However, I also used Time for Learning to ensure that I was covering everything the public schools were covering.  I simply added in my own projects, books, and ways of teaching to the material.  Time 4 Learning is a common core curriculum.  I had no issue with any of the subjects except for math.  Now that A is back in school I still have no issues with any of the subjects except for math.

But I really, really, really hate the math.

Let me give you an example.

36 divided by 3.  Let's say you don't have this memorized.  So, you would write it out and put 3 into 3 one time and then 3 into 6 two times and you get 12.

Well, with common core you do this:

You break 36 into two numbers that are both divisible by 3.  Then you create this equation:

(3 x 10) + (3 x 2)

Then you add the 10 and the 2 to get 12.


Yeah we had this for homework the other night.  And they did not want the answer to 36/3.  They wanted the equation you use to find 12.  I had to call the special ed teacher the next day and have him explain it to me.  She had two pages of this kind of confusion and we worked for hours and hours.  Finally, she went to bed without having it all complete.  There was just way too much frustration and anxiety.

If you think I am kidding here is a picture of the homework:

They say that this helps to teach them WHY 36/3=12.  To me, it seems like they are trying to teach them short cuts they can do in their heads in order to try and turn them into little computer processing machines.  They want our kids to go paperless.

I don't think I am just stuck in my ways either because it's not just me and my kid having this issue.  The majority of people I talk to have the same problem.  Common Core math has you take this big round about way to arrive at answers.  It's like going 10 blocks out of your way to get to a store that's right at the end of your block.  It's nonsensical.  It doesn't teach WHY.  I know why.  If you break 36 up into 3 parts each of those parts will have 12 pieces.  It makes sense.  I know when I say that 3 goes into 3 one time I am really saying that 3 goes into 30  ten times.  I don't need to create a 14 step problem in order to "get it."  Honestly, I still don't understand how creating that problem makes anything more clear.

If you want to know the WHY about math you can watch Khan Academy videos.  He explains why as he teaches you.  You can also read Life of Fred.  I am sure there are many other resources that explain the why.  I learned math the old way and I always understood why.

I call BS on the Common Core's reason for teaching this way.

What else do I hate?  I hate that the kids take a big, long, stressful assessment in the beginning of the year on things they did not learn yet.  They come out of school crying and feeling stupid.  They do this to see how well the kids improve and thus grade and critique the teachers.   My son who is very self controlled all the time had a melt down in class after taking that test.  They do another assessment half way through and another one at the end.  Plus, they have other standardized tests to take.  All the kids do is test and prepare for tests.  There is no room for fun in learning anymore.  More kids are hating school than ever before.  Teachers who love teaching cannot even enjoy their work.  They don't have any room to be the creative and awesome beings that they are.

If you want to turn out geniuses, you have to turn out kids that love to learn.  If you turn them off to the whole pursuit they'll just go get some mindless job and waste away.  If I did not know better, I would think that was Common Core's secret mission: To make kids feel so stupid and so miserable about learning that they resign themselves to a life of servitude, a life of flipping burgers and making lattes and never questioning, inventing, or creating anything.

My daughter came out on her evaluation in 3rd grade as having a math disability.  But does she?  She was great at math up until mid second grade.  Then she just got completely lost.  But in 4th grade I kept her home and started over teaching her math from first grade and went up through 4th.  I taught her the way I knew but we also did the Common Core lessons on Time 4 Learning.  The thing was I let her use whatever method worked for her to find the answers and she would find them most of the time.  She was able to learn and for the most part retain 4 years worth of math.  Does she really have a disability?  Or did the Common Core just set her back?

It kills me that Common Core was not even created by educators and that two of the educators who were hired to review what was created and give input were dismissed when they said there were some key components missing from the curriculum.  (See this in the documentary here.) It also kills me that most teachers do not like Common Core.  I have not found a "fan" of Common Core yet!

Here is a blog post from a teacher and mom about her feelings on Common Core.

NBC News even chimed in on Facebook!

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Halloween Party Ideas Your Kids Will Love

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When I was a kid, we didn't do birthday parties other than with the family.  What we did do was Halloween parties.  My mother used to go all out for us on Halloween and invite my entire class and neighborhood to attend.  To this day, over thirty years later, when I run into people who were in attendance at these events they still say to me, "You always had the BEST Halloween parties."

So, how did my mom do it?  Here were some of the highlights that my childhood friends still remember.

Cauldron of Prizes: My mother created this witch on thick paper and secured her to a stick. She covered a big metal pot with black fabric and filled the pot with prizes.  Every kid would get one prize, usually after a game or activity.  We'd reach in and pull out a surprise.  I remember some kids actually being a little scared to put their hand in there, but in the end they did to reap the rewards!

Pin the Tail on the Black Cat: This is pretty self explanatory, but we'd play the same way we played Pin the Tail on the Donkey.  We'd have a blindfold, get spun, and try to get as close as we could!

Pass the Clothes:  In the spirit of dressing up for Halloween, we played a game where we got to dress up even more!  Mom filled a big bag full of clothes.  I remember there were a lot of funny ones leftover from the 60's.  There were also silly hats and glasses.  We'd pass around the bag by bouncing it once on the floor and then handing it to the child on our right while music played.  When the music stopped whoever was holding the bag had to reach in, pull something out, and wear it!  This was always good for some laughs.

I can't find an old picture of us playing this, but here are some of us playing it a few years ago along with our kids in playgroup!

Apples on a String: Because my mom thought bobbing for apples was pretty unsanitary, she tied apples to string and hung them from the ceiling.  We could not use our hands and kept them behind our backs while we tried to bite our apples.

Decorations: Mom always set the mood with great decorations that got the imaginations moving.  You can see it did not cost much but did take a lot of time and creativity!

My costumes were usually homemade as were a lot of people's.  I can't say that I have carried on this tradition with my kids.  I can't sew and it is easier to go to the store and have them pick something out.  Nothing can beat the fun of seeing original homemade costumes though!

In case you're wondering, my mom is still doing her Halloween thing to this day with my kids and their friends!

Here are some other spooktacular Halloween ideas from Pinterest!

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Chewigem Review and Giveaway!
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I first wrote about Chewigem when I discovered it through Dyspraxia USA.  I have since gotten one for my daughter, A, so I wanted to write a review and give someone else a chance to try this for themselves.

My daughter has some sensory issues and one of the biggest ways this manifests itself is with chewing.  She will chew on pens, jewelry, her shirt collar, and erasers.  There are even odder things I have had to make her take out of her mouth.  She will pretty much bite on anything within reach without thinking about it.

I was (am) also dyspraxic and when I was a child my pens and pencils always looked like a puppy had gotten to them.  I also used to chew on phone cords.  (Yes, phones used to have cords).  So, I understand and can relate to this need to gnaw on everything.  Sometimes when I am really lost in my work I still nibble on my pens!

I was really happy when I learned about Chewigem because instead of trying to inhibit a child's need to chew, they devised a way to allow the child to safely indulge in this behavior.

So, what are Chewigems?  Chewigems are jewelry you can sink your teeth into!  It's made of FDA approved silicone and comes in a variety of attractive shapes and colors.  A had a blue one and she wanted a pink one to go with her other outfits, so now she has two.

I was really happy with how the jewelry was made.  I half expected it to be thinner and imagined my daughter eventually chewing through it.  Fortunately, it's very thick and durable and I don't think she could chew through it in 20 years!  Her friends all like it and think it is cute.  They have no idea it is made to chew on, especially since they are used to seeing A chew on everything anyway.  My son, who does not have a chewing problem, is begging me to get him one too because to him it looks like his sister is having a blast chewing away (and I think she is).

When I learned about the vestibular system, I found that children learn and concentrate better when they are allowed to fidget.  I believe that chewing is similar to fidgeting and I think if children are allowed to release energy and be stimulated in this way they can better focus their attention and become less frustrated.  Last night, for example, when I was working on my daughter's math homework with her, she was extremely frustrated.  She said things like, "I just want to run!"  "I need to stretch!"  "I need to scream."  She was randomly, even frantically, putting things in her mouth.  The eraser from her mechanical pencil is no longer attached now. She pulled out an earring and put it in her mouth, too. When I took the earring, her hair went in.  Finally I asked, "Where is your Chewigem?"  She retrieved it.  She chewed on that furiously while we worked.  She was able to concentrate again and get all that stress out on her chewable necklace.  I'm not saying this is a cure-all but it helps. It helps her to cope and I don't have to worry about her choking on anything!

Chewigem has added a lot of new products.  They have dog tags, bangle bracelets, eternity necklaces, cat gems, and more. I'd love to give someone else the opportunity to experience the difference that Chewigem can make in their child's life so I am hosting a giveaway so you can get your own!  Chewigem has been generous enough to offer a free product of your "chewsing" if you win!  Like I said, they have a lot of choices. 

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Little Passports Fundraising For Your School!

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I love Little Passports.  The advertising seems to market to little kids but I think this is a really cool thing all the way into middle school.  Kids get mailings with all kinds of souvenirs and activities from different places (you can either do US or international).  It helps them learn, not just by reading, but also by experiencing each culture a bit through the various senses.  It is always exciting to get mail, especially when it is *stuff,* and Little Passports is no exception.  We love it.  That's why I thought it was really cool that Little Passports can partner with schools for fundraisers!

Here's how it works: You can distribute a flyer at your school (or any other group you are fundraising for).  You then get 15% of what is spent donated to your school.  People love ordering the Little Passports for their kids because it is a fun and award winning educational program.  It is even better because they are doing it for a good cause.  Little Passports can even be used as a holiday gift that keeps giving all year!  Get more information here: The fundraising period is from October 21 - 28 and the deadline to sign-up is October 10th so check it out today!
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7 Ways The First Day of School is Like a Heavy Metal Concert

I guess I'm really going to have to change the name of this blog.  Both my kids are in public school now and they started today.  I want to pour my heart out in this post and explore all my conflicted feelings along with all of my founded and unfounded fears, but instead I will tell you why going to the first day of school is like attending a heavy metal concert.

I attended a lot of hard rock shows back in the day and dropping my kids off this morning brought back those memories for me in the seven following ways.

1) When you get there, nobody really knows where they should be going.  They all just follow the big mob.  
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           2) There is a feeling of excitement in the air but nobody looks happy.

3) Everyone pushes towards the front of the entrance, the way concert goers move towards the stage.  Unless you plan on starting a mosh pit, you are unable to to move in any direction.
4) It's intimidating!  Everyone is scary and you're not sure if you really belong.

5) There is no order.  It is total ANARCHY!  Nobody is lining up on the first day or watching their behavior.  All last year's conditioning is gone. Social norms are out the window.  There are kids and parents and backpacks and pencils everywhere with no regard for the powers that be.

6) The press.  The paparazzi parents are all over on the first day of school.  If you're not careful you'll be blinded by flashes and you might find yourself in the background of a gazillion Facebook photos in the most unflattering of positions.
7) Finally, it is LOUD. Between the

 7) Finally, it is LOUD. Between the squeals of happy tweens greeting their friends and the wails of crying preschoolers wanting their moms, your ears could be ringing for the rest of the day.

squeals of happy tweens greeting their friends and the wails of crying preschoolers wanting their moms, your ears could be ringing for the rest of the day.
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Back to School Checklists for Kids

This school year is going to be bringing about a lot of changes for my family.  The biggest change is that A is going back into public school. This will be the first time in ten years that I have no children home with me! I am going to increase my work hours at home so that I work for the entire time the kids are at school.  I also am taking on a weekend job outside the home in social services.  My husband may even be taking on a new position at his job.  Lots of changes afoot for us!

My kids will have at least two extra curricular activities each at any given time.  That's how it always is.  We try to ensure they see friends at least once a week as well.  Basically, we are going to be busy.  Life becomes a whirlwind during the school year. 

I am determined to stay organized this year. I will admit it is hard for us to stay organized even without being busy.  I can do it but it takes a lot of concentration and energy for me being a dyspraxic (and I am realizing as I get older that I may have ADHD, too).  My daughter has executive functions issues along with her dyspraxia.  My hubby is the most disorganized of all of us.  He is a genius in his field but keeping track of appointments, homework, and even car keys is not his strong suit.  

To keep the kids on course, I have made them checklists for before and after school.  This way they know what is expected and it is not overwhelming.  As long as these things get done we'll be okay.  I will have to make up some lists for myself as well!  

If your kids need organization help, feel free to download these lists for yourself or copy and tweak them to meet your needs.  

You'll notice I added in setting a goal in the morning.  This is because I know for myself that when I set an intention in the beginning of the day things go much more smoothly for me.  When you tell your mind what you hope to accomplish and you have a direction set, things fall into place for you and you feel more secure.  I want this for my kids.

I also added prayer time at the end of the day where the kids need to be thankful for what is good.  Taking the time each night, even for just a minute or two, to be grateful and appreciate what we have can make such a difference in how we feel and what we take to the others we interact with.  I also say for them to ask for help with anything they need assistance with.  This gives a sense of control and of faith.  If anything is going wrong we are taking the time to do what we can by asking for help and turning our struggle over to a higher power.  

I added family time to the after school list as well.  I know with the activities there may be days where we can't fit in a game or a craft but it is something to shoot for as much as possible.  I am going to really miss my kids this year and I want to make sure I spend time with them whenever I possibly can.  I feel this is good for all of us.  I miss them already and they have not even gone back to school yet!

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Five Lessons for Parenting Life {Mom Get Out and Play Challenge Days 4-12}

Okay, I dropped the ball on blogging for every day of the Mom Get Out and Play Challenge.  However, I have been honoring my commitment to connect with my kids and I have been learning a lot of lessons along the way.  Here is some of what I've been taking in.

1) Let Go Of Your Preconceived Notions. Your children can be anything and anyone.  They'll surprise you if you let them.  Example: My son HATES shopping.  Nothing seems to make him more miserable.  However, when I had him try on clothes this past week at PS, he fell in love.  I'm not sure if he is love with shopping or just his own reflection in nice new clothes, but something changed.  By the time we left the mall he was asking me when we could go shopping again and said, and I quote, "I LOVE CLOTHES SHOPPING!"

2) Sometimes the Sweetest Moments are The Most Ordinary.  There was one day last week where I was really trying to force this whole bonding thing.  I was taking these kids from one activity to the next but it seemed like nobody was really feeling it.  It was just too forced.  When I put A to bed that night she began confiding in me about her fears of going back to school and we wound up talking for over an hour in her bed.  I felt a real connection happening. She was listening and I was helping. Board games, outings, and activities mean nothing without this connection.

3) Forget What You Like and What You Want.  It's Not About YOU Anymore.  My husband was a wrestler. He therefore wants my son to wrestle. My son wrestled last year with dad coaching.  He was pretty good and worked hard at it but he really is not an aggressive kid and he did not enjoy it at all.  He hated the idea of someone getting hurt because of him and he (of course) hated getting hurt.  He loves and excels at soccer, track, and baseball.  My husband won't coach these sports and does not attend all of them.I'm not writing this to rag on my hubby.  I decided to take a look at myself to see if I do this same thing.  I do.  Sometimes I am only willing to do acitivies or watch movies that I like with the kids.  It should not be that way.  We should enter into their world and engage in what they love with them.  Whatever they love we should love it too because it is a part of them.  Children deserve the chance to become themselves.  They don't owe us their lives.

4) Setting Our Intention is the Most Important Part of Anything We Do.  When I wake up each day telling myself that my intention is to be a good mother and to connect with my children, it sets the tone for the entire day.  Just setting this intention makes parenting easier, almost effortless.  I am finding that I can intuit my children's needs now.  They have not had to ask me for anything or remind me of things because I am flipping my brain into "awesome mom mode" at the beginning of each day.

5) Making Time for Fun Makes More Time. I don't know why, but when I carve out time for fun and family my day seems to last so much longer.  I don't feel robbed of time, I feel like I have more of it.  Time is all about perception.  That's why when we are little 3 weeks seems like an eternity and when we are older it seems like it goes by in the blink of an eye.  Time has not changed, we have.  Adding happiness, connection, love, and fun into our days extends time.

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